DA If I've learned anything from playing it's that a lot of flight rising players do not have the tact or the nuance to word their messages properly so as to not come off as attacking nor the ability to see that a message is written 'politely' or not (see the folks who see Aeq's polite customer service style messages as "cold" and "rude"). Tone in text is difficult for a lot of the playerbase which makes sense given we have a lot of young folks, a lot of ND folks, and a lot of folks who speak english as their second/third/etc language.
Most recipients would probably be like 'whoa who's this weirdo obsessing over MY dragon' and go on the defensive right away, especially if it's pointed out that the person messaging them was a previous owner. Because most players have the understanding that once a dragon is in your lair it's yours- a message out of the blue questioning why you changed the lore on a dragon that's now in your possession already comes off as very off-putting. It's a bit like those folks who send messages to exalters about dragons they've sold being put into fodder folders.
It is considered rather weird to be checking up on dragons sold or given away like that, let alone sending messages about them. So like... I wouldn't consider one polite message harassment but.... it can open up to a lot of not great stuff. At the bare minimum you're likely looking at a block because who wants to deal with the potential of having someone blow up at you for altering your dragon as you see fit? At worse you could start a fight and end up blocked anyway and show up mentioned in an anonymous wanker thread in an anonymous drama forum thing for anons to laugh at you over how weird and out of line you were being.
If they're breaking rules, directly referencing your account or dragons by name without asking you first if that's ok, it is probably still better to not engage with them; just report and let staff handle it or to just block them yourself and move on. IMO.
AYRT I see where you're coming from - especially being ND myself. Figuring out tone over text issues are rampant everywhere, it seems.
I try to incorporate what I can of a dragon's original lore, so if someone DM'd me about a dragon they originally had, I'd hear them out. That probably puts me in the minority of players! To me, it's an opportunity for collaboration, not an attack. And if it opens me up to a meh interaction or a situation where I have to block or report, that's a risk I'm okay with taking.
If it makes me weird to approach someone under reasonable pretenses about a dragon I used to have, then I can live with that. Won't be the first time someone thinks I'm weird. Won't be the last either.
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Re: SMR Lore Salt
(Anonymous) 2024-12-18 10:11 pm (UTC)(link)If I've learned anything from playing it's that a lot of flight rising players do not have the tact or the nuance to word their messages properly so as to not come off as attacking nor the ability to see that a message is written 'politely' or not (see the folks who see Aeq's polite customer service style messages as "cold" and "rude"). Tone in text is difficult for a lot of the playerbase which makes sense given we have a lot of young folks, a lot of ND folks, and a lot of folks who speak english as their second/third/etc language.
Most recipients would probably be like 'whoa who's this weirdo obsessing over MY dragon' and go on the defensive right away, especially if it's pointed out that the person messaging them was a previous owner. Because most players have the understanding that once a dragon is in your lair it's yours- a message out of the blue questioning why you changed the lore on a dragon that's now in your possession already comes off as very off-putting. It's a bit like those folks who send messages to exalters about dragons they've sold being put into fodder folders.
It is considered rather weird to be checking up on dragons sold or given away like that, let alone sending messages about them. So like... I wouldn't consider one polite message harassment but.... it can open up to a lot of not great stuff. At the bare minimum you're likely looking at a block because who wants to deal with the potential of having someone blow up at you for altering your dragon as you see fit? At worse you could start a fight and end up blocked anyway and show up mentioned in an anonymous wanker thread in an anonymous drama forum thing for anons to laugh at you over how weird and out of line you were being.
If they're breaking rules, directly referencing your account or dragons by name without asking you first if that's ok, it is probably still better to not engage with them; just report and let staff handle it or to just block them yourself and move on. IMO.
Re: SMR Lore Salt
(Anonymous) 2024-12-18 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)I try to incorporate what I can of a dragon's original lore, so if someone DM'd me about a dragon they originally had, I'd hear them out. That probably puts me in the minority of players! To me, it's an opportunity for collaboration, not an attack. And if it opens me up to a meh interaction or a situation where I have to block or report, that's a risk I'm okay with taking.
If it makes me weird to approach someone under reasonable pretenses about a dragon I used to have, then I can live with that. Won't be the first time someone thinks I'm weird. Won't be the last either.