as someone who also write essays, I completely agree with you.
It is one thing to be uncomfortable with someone else's spending habit. That is perfectly fine. It is also perfectly fine to back out of an auction due to that.
What isn't fine is trying to make it sound like you (speaking to Strawberry from now on) are taking the high ground and going on a multiple paragraph and post rant about their spending habits.
You know nothing about their spending habits, nor their financial situation. They might need help, a lot of people DO have financial issues/spending problems. Many people do have gambling issues. But, unless you are related to them, or know them personally, you are not their keeper, and you don't know their situation.
You going on about how your friend was irresponsible, and got addicted to spending money to get some sort of exclusive 'one up' or whatever in a game, and everything else is not going to help them. No matter your intention, you came across as jealous that they could spend that much, and like you were trying to shame them to back out of the auction so you could get the dragon yourself.
What Toxx said wasn't the best, I said in a different post, I wondered if it could be an ESL issue, if Toxx's first language isn't english. Or it was just poor wording. Regardless, it is fine to be irritated by the language, but again, going on a multiple post rant about it isn't going to help the person.
As the anon I replied to said, Toxx is responsible for their own words and actions, and you are responsible for YOURS.
You aren't going to change their mind about what they are doing, and they aren't going to change how you feel about it. So, again, as anon said, next time you feel the need to rant, just write it out and delete it.
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(frozen comment) Re: 100x777 argument
(Anonymous) 2025-01-08 02:06 pm (UTC)(link)It is one thing to be uncomfortable with someone else's spending habit. That is perfectly fine. It is also perfectly fine to back out of an auction due to that.
What isn't fine is trying to make it sound like you (speaking to Strawberry from now on) are taking the high ground and going on a multiple paragraph and post rant about their spending habits.
You know nothing about their spending habits, nor their financial situation. They might need help, a lot of people DO have financial issues/spending problems. Many people do have gambling issues. But, unless you are related to them, or know them personally, you are not their keeper, and you don't know their situation.
You going on about how your friend was irresponsible, and got addicted to spending money to get some sort of exclusive 'one up' or whatever in a game, and everything else is not going to help them. No matter your intention, you came across as jealous that they could spend that much, and like you were trying to shame them to back out of the auction so you could get the dragon yourself.
What Toxx said wasn't the best, I said in a different post, I wondered if it could be an ESL issue, if Toxx's first language isn't english. Or it was just poor wording. Regardless, it is fine to be irritated by the language, but again, going on a multiple post rant about it isn't going to help the person.
As the anon I replied to said, Toxx is responsible for their own words and actions, and you are responsible for YOURS.
You aren't going to change their mind about what they are doing, and they aren't going to change how you feel about it. So, again, as anon said, next time you feel the need to rant, just write it out and delete it.