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show me 100 fictional character "alters" and i'll show you 100 lies, i watched this garbage consume a friend circle or two back in the day that was previously made up of singular personalities. no, they're not valid, and it's really shitty to lie ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
show me 100 fictional character "alters" and i'll show you 100 lies, i watched this garbage consume a friend circle or two back in the day that was previously made up of singular personalities. no, they're not valid, and it's really shitty to lie ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
if you don't validate my sans the skeleton alter, 5 more personalities will appear from the sheer trauma. you don't want that blood on your hands, do you?
I didn't notice dragon ages say 1 decade now. I feel so old holy shit.
Yay! I hope people find it helpful!
nonny, if you read further up in this thread you'll see people acknowledging that self-diagnosing can be valid and helpful and that medical diagnosis is expensive and sometimes unobtainable.
That doesn't change the fact that self-diagnosis can be wrong. I once thought I had BPD and self-diagnosed it. Turns out I have ADHD and the symptoms that made me think I had BPD (RSD, emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, etc.) came from that. Self-diagnosis can be wrong and even dangerous depending, and for a lot of these kids self-diagnosing with DID is nothing more than a desire to fit in or a misplacement of symptoms.
I promise you the people who say they have tommyinnit or naruto alters or whatever do not actually have DID. it does not work like that. they're just trying to find a place they can fit in and doing what they have to to make it work or they do have some form of mental illness/disorder, and they're misplacing what it is.
That doesn't change the fact that self-diagnosis can be wrong. I once thought I had BPD and self-diagnosed it. Turns out I have ADHD and the symptoms that made me think I had BPD (RSD, emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, etc.) came from that. Self-diagnosis can be wrong and even dangerous depending, and for a lot of these kids self-diagnosing with DID is nothing more than a desire to fit in or a misplacement of symptoms.
I promise you the people who say they have tommyinnit or naruto alters or whatever do not actually have DID. it does not work like that. they're just trying to find a place they can fit in and doing what they have to to make it work or they do have some form of mental illness/disorder, and they're misplacing what it is.
What do you mean having an alter of my favorite YouTuber is impersonation? My condition is valid and you're ableist!
reading this made me want to cough up blood lmfao
self dxing is beneficial ONLY if it leads to the individual working towards an official diagnosis. medical diagnostics are extremely out of reach, but it does NOT give people an automatic pass to loudly claim that they have the condition without proper testing and study. all medical conditions can have heavily overlapping symptoms with lots of varying treatments, and this is especially true in the psychological field where no one brain functions the same as another.
self dx is valid but it is NOT a true diagnosis. no one knows you better than yourself, but you STILL need the education and outward understanding of yourself to formally understand your symptoms and treatment options correctly. doctors STILL SEEK OTHER DOCTORS for treatment because even they can be wrong about their symptoms! "a doctor who treats themself has a fool for a patient" is a well known saying for a reason.
self dx is valid but it is NOT a true diagnosis. no one knows you better than yourself, but you STILL need the education and outward understanding of yourself to formally understand your symptoms and treatment options correctly. doctors STILL SEEK OTHER DOCTORS for treatment because even they can be wrong about their symptoms! "a doctor who treats themself has a fool for a patient" is a well known saying for a reason.
Hello, it is Pessi once again, sorry it has taken me a bit to get back with yall.
A little bit ago I made a post mentioning that me, OOF dom team members, and fellow embers were all discussing how to change course for Fire Dom, and that i'd follow up with you all here regarding this. Things were discussed such as new organization, a complete reform to how the team operates, and discussion of our current lead stepping down due to their periodic absences due to irl reasons during important times when we've needed them... Newer members such as me, and a few others were for the idea. While the rest of the team seemed for the other two ideas brought to them, the idea of duchess stepping down entirely didn't seem to agree on them, rather, they wanted her to stay on the team, just not have the role as a lead.
While initially this seemed ok to roll with, when Duchess eventually reappeared (albeit briefly), there was only a mention of her having more of her responsibilities taken up, rather than the aforementioned having her step down as a lead. Additionally, I was offput by a message from one of the members (not listing who), stating I did not care about the team's opinions, for not having private channels for the team. Keep in mind, the "server" was basically a larger group chat so that us, embers, and OOF Dom team members to share the current state of FireDom and take advice on how to improve on it. This message was also sent to me right after I had invited a particular user who had left fire into the server, who had on-going issues regarding FireDom that lead to them leaving.
Another question that I am sure a lot of you are wondering is the cancellation of WvF. While me and the team were discussing things, OOF Dom Team members brought up the fact that we are very unprepared for a battle with Water. Water gave Earth a run for their money last battle, and considering how underprepared we were, a fight with Water would mean a certain curbstomp and unfun fight for both parties. Water has been prepping ever since the fight was announced- and we had nothing. Not only would we be possibly trying to reform the team and reorganize, but we would also be rushing assets, events, etc in only 2 months. Due to this, I had informed the Water flight that we needed to cancel the fight. That being said, thank you Ice for stepping in, water deserves a fight especially with all of the hard work they have put into planning and assets. To embers, I am sincerely sorry that the announcement about the cancellation of the fight was delayed to you. We were in the process of brainstorming the announcement when the announcement from Water was leaked into FRC. Please know that we had no intentions of withholding this information from you all- despite previous communication issues with the flight.
Continuing to the second paragraph I had typed here, I will not be mentioning names, but a lot of this had left a very poor taste in my mouth, not including the many grievances already shared here by others that I also have with the AA. With all things considered, I had returned the attending funds to one of the bank holders, and today eventually announced at 4:52 PM EST that I was leaving AA due to creative differences. 6 PM- No response... 8 PM- activity in a different channel, but yet again, no response. At this point, at 8:23 PM, I had left the AA server. I wish no ill-will to AA, but I no longer feel comfortable working with them due to these reasons.
Posted the same thing here in Fire's Discord so that embers are aware of this as well.
A little bit ago I made a post mentioning that me, OOF dom team members, and fellow embers were all discussing how to change course for Fire Dom, and that i'd follow up with you all here regarding this. Things were discussed such as new organization, a complete reform to how the team operates, and discussion of our current lead stepping down due to their periodic absences due to irl reasons during important times when we've needed them... Newer members such as me, and a few others were for the idea. While the rest of the team seemed for the other two ideas brought to them, the idea of duchess stepping down entirely didn't seem to agree on them, rather, they wanted her to stay on the team, just not have the role as a lead.
While initially this seemed ok to roll with, when Duchess eventually reappeared (albeit briefly), there was only a mention of her having more of her responsibilities taken up, rather than the aforementioned having her step down as a lead. Additionally, I was offput by a message from one of the members (not listing who), stating I did not care about the team's opinions, for not having private channels for the team. Keep in mind, the "server" was basically a larger group chat so that us, embers, and OOF Dom team members to share the current state of FireDom and take advice on how to improve on it. This message was also sent to me right after I had invited a particular user who had left fire into the server, who had on-going issues regarding FireDom that lead to them leaving.
Another question that I am sure a lot of you are wondering is the cancellation of WvF. While me and the team were discussing things, OOF Dom Team members brought up the fact that we are very unprepared for a battle with Water. Water gave Earth a run for their money last battle, and considering how underprepared we were, a fight with Water would mean a certain curbstomp and unfun fight for both parties. Water has been prepping ever since the fight was announced- and we had nothing. Not only would we be possibly trying to reform the team and reorganize, but we would also be rushing assets, events, etc in only 2 months. Due to this, I had informed the Water flight that we needed to cancel the fight. That being said, thank you Ice for stepping in, water deserves a fight especially with all of the hard work they have put into planning and assets. To embers, I am sincerely sorry that the announcement about the cancellation of the fight was delayed to you. We were in the process of brainstorming the announcement when the announcement from Water was leaked into FRC. Please know that we had no intentions of withholding this information from you all- despite previous communication issues with the flight.
Continuing to the second paragraph I had typed here, I will not be mentioning names, but a lot of this had left a very poor taste in my mouth, not including the many grievances already shared here by others that I also have with the AA. With all things considered, I had returned the attending funds to one of the bank holders, and today eventually announced at 4:52 PM EST that I was leaving AA due to creative differences. 6 PM- No response... 8 PM- activity in a different channel, but yet again, no response. At this point, at 8:23 PM, I had left the AA server. I wish no ill-will to AA, but I no longer feel comfortable working with them due to these reasons.
Posted the same thing here in Fire's Discord so that embers are aware of this as well.
annnd there goes firedom, again.
you tried pessi, that's all anyone can ask of you.
you tried pessi, that's all anyone can ask of you.
As a droplet? Yeah I am glad fire dropped out. You guys need good leadership and I am really sorry to see you give up pessi. You tried and you will always have my respect. Plz take care of yourself and good luck with your irl stuff!
If you wanted to start your own dom team, we'd be behind you. You don't need the AA to run events!
RIP firedom. You did all you could, Pessi. Why they even want to keep a useless dom lead is beyond me. Seems like the rot from the top is pretty deep-seated.
First of all, wtf are "OOF dom team members", that's not a thing. Secondly, good job for trying and condolences for the outcome, hope everything works out for you.
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i want to be clear, because i realize in hindsight that it comes across as invalidating: when i say "self dxing is beneficial ONLY if it leads to the individual working towards an official diagnosis," it's not me saying "it must be done immediately as soon as you suspect something." it's me saying "your self diagnostics should EVENTUALLY lead towards an official diagnosis." it doesn't have to happen until later in life when you're ready and capable or get the aid you need to get one. until you do get that diagnosis, you should treat it as a suspicion, not fact, and shouldn't say you have that condition publicly or make other people believe you have that condition.
you are valid to believe you may have something, and seek community when you have that suspicion.
you are valid if you don't have the means right now to see a professional to confirm it.
you are valid if you're not ready or in a living situation that encourages you to seek help.
but please, for your absolute well-being, you should not ever say for a fact that you have a condition that you have not been formally tested for, because you might be neglecting something else with way different, more specific needs due to confirmation bias. you need secondary, professional opinions. it is so much safer to get a professional opinion that confirms it and be able to come back and say 'i told you so' than it is to claim it, try to care for it, and it end up being something else that is well above your paygrade.
i want to be clear, because i realize in hindsight that it comes across as invalidating: when i say "self dxing is beneficial ONLY if it leads to the individual working towards an official diagnosis," it's not me saying "it must be done immediately as soon as you suspect something." it's me saying "your self diagnostics should EVENTUALLY lead towards an official diagnosis." it doesn't have to happen until later in life when you're ready and capable or get the aid you need to get one. until you do get that diagnosis, you should treat it as a suspicion, not fact, and shouldn't say you have that condition publicly or make other people believe you have that condition.
you are valid to believe you may have something, and seek community when you have that suspicion.
you are valid if you don't have the means right now to see a professional to confirm it.
you are valid if you're not ready or in a living situation that encourages you to seek help.
but please, for your absolute well-being, you should not ever say for a fact that you have a condition that you have not been formally tested for, because you might be neglecting something else with way different, more specific needs due to confirmation bias. you need secondary, professional opinions. it is so much safer to get a professional opinion that confirms it and be able to come back and say 'i told you so' than it is to claim it, try to care for it, and it end up being something else that is well above your paygrade.
no offense nonny, but are you gonna paypal me the thousands of dollars required to get dx'd by a psychiatrist? I have a therapist who specializes in ADHD who says I'm textbook, but she can't formerly dx me on account of not being a medical doctor. unless I luck into a job with good benefits, I can't afford that and I likely will never be able to afford that lol.
like I get what you're saying and I don't disagree that a lot of people make mistakes w/self dx but official dxes are not the end all to be all. a dx of autism can prevent people from immigrating to certain countries. there are reasons people may want to seek out and benefit from online resources without an official dx, and there are reasons to not want an official dx.
like I get what you're saying and I don't disagree that a lot of people make mistakes w/self dx but official dxes are not the end all to be all. a dx of autism can prevent people from immigrating to certain countries. there are reasons people may want to seek out and benefit from online resources without an official dx, and there are reasons to not want an official dx.
i said "ready and capable or get the aid you need to get a diagnosis" and stated - also very clearly - *eventually* it is what should be done. if you are not capable, or can't get the aid you need right now, i'm not going to fault someone for not getting an official diagnosis until later in life. i'm not going to fault people for being poor, or unemployed, or currently in a household that's not safe/supportive, or any other outstanding reasons that may make their life difficult if diagnosed formally. these are only a fragment of extenuating circumstances that affect a lot of people. just because i'm not outright saying every little circumstance, however, doesn't mean that i'm not aware of the countless reasons someone might can't, such as being a minor or under guardianship of someone/a government who/that refuses to do so/can't do so, or in a domestically abusive home, or an immigrant, or homeless or what have you. i'm not listing all of them because i'm not about to write the war and peace of things that make life hard for people here.
you are also correct in that an official dx can do harm. this is also an extenuating circumstance that i can understand.
and your difference is that you are AT LEAST seeing a specialist. you are seeing someone who has gotten an education in the psychological field (at least, that's what i'm interpreting you as having; i can be wrong) and even specializes in your condition. you are seeing a professional, and i'm *glad* you are and can do so, and will always be glad when someone does, because people should do as much as they can. but TONS MORE people - disproportionately so - aren't, whether of their own volition or by the extenuating circumstances that are not limited to what you and i covered, and are going on to say they have some arrangement of conditions as if complete fact when it simply isn't.
what i will recommend in order to be of help to you in some way (as i'm critically disabled now and unable to make money; i WISH i could help you in the way you're asking, but i absolutely never can or i'll lose all my health benefits that keep me alive) is i'll suggest that you look into non-profit hospitals and medical care systems if you haven't already. there's lots out there; possibly not in your neck of the woods, but if there is, look into them. in order for a hospital to be non-profit in MOST circumstances, patients MUST be able to apply for financial aid that can cover your treatment, based on income and needs, so long as you apply and provide proof that fits their criteria. i had to do this when i had heart surgery while uninsured. i got completely free healthcare for a year from my medical system for everything i needed from my physical to extremely specialist needs, to even my extremely expensive medication. they even helped me apply for government insurance and advocated for me until i got it. they got me a social worker. every hospital is different, but there ARE systems that can do what you need, and some even provide transportation aid for appointments.
i'm so sorry you can't get a formal diagnosis for financial reasons. i could never be able to express it in words correctly, and i wish you can find a job that gets you where you need to be in order to get the resources our world fails to give readily.
you are also correct in that an official dx can do harm. this is also an extenuating circumstance that i can understand.
and your difference is that you are AT LEAST seeing a specialist. you are seeing someone who has gotten an education in the psychological field (at least, that's what i'm interpreting you as having; i can be wrong) and even specializes in your condition. you are seeing a professional, and i'm *glad* you are and can do so, and will always be glad when someone does, because people should do as much as they can. but TONS MORE people - disproportionately so - aren't, whether of their own volition or by the extenuating circumstances that are not limited to what you and i covered, and are going on to say they have some arrangement of conditions as if complete fact when it simply isn't.
what i will recommend in order to be of help to you in some way (as i'm critically disabled now and unable to make money; i WISH i could help you in the way you're asking, but i absolutely never can or i'll lose all my health benefits that keep me alive) is i'll suggest that you look into non-profit hospitals and medical care systems if you haven't already. there's lots out there; possibly not in your neck of the woods, but if there is, look into them. in order for a hospital to be non-profit in MOST circumstances, patients MUST be able to apply for financial aid that can cover your treatment, based on income and needs, so long as you apply and provide proof that fits their criteria. i had to do this when i had heart surgery while uninsured. i got completely free healthcare for a year from my medical system for everything i needed from my physical to extremely specialist needs, to even my extremely expensive medication. they even helped me apply for government insurance and advocated for me until i got it. they got me a social worker. every hospital is different, but there ARE systems that can do what you need, and some even provide transportation aid for appointments.
i'm so sorry you can't get a formal diagnosis for financial reasons. i could never be able to express it in words correctly, and i wish you can find a job that gets you where you need to be in order to get the resources our world fails to give readily.
OOF dom leads most likely means the other flights' dom leads. There is a dom leader Discord that exists, from my understanding. These people know what a battle takes because they've all done it.
Sorry it went so poorly. I hate adding to my list of Flights to not support, but this makes it irreversibly on there with lightning. Your former team is a toxic lot that didn't deserve you. And I'll be honest, I kind of hope Dutchess gets banned for something and they lose the "bank". It'd serve them right.
At any rate, if you ever want to get away from the toxic mess that is your flight, I'm sure other flights would welcome you. Find a new home where you would be appreciated. You deserve better.
And for the people saying start a second team in fire? It's ridiculous. Because they will just take credit for everything you do that wins and blame all losses on you dividing the resources.
At any rate, if you ever want to get away from the toxic mess that is your flight, I'm sure other flights would welcome you. Find a new home where you would be appreciated. You deserve better.
And for the people saying start a second team in fire? It's ridiculous. Because they will just take credit for everything you do that wins and blame all losses on you dividing the resources.
what'd lightning do to get on your shitlist? just wanna know incase its something crazy that i'll want to avoid too
Rowan is actually worse than Dutchess. Rowan posted logs during the Water vs Earth raffle shenanigans that made him look bad unanoned, then proceeded to whiteknight himself and try to gaslight people that he didn't post them so hard the mods here revealed it was him.
That would have gotten Lightning on "avoid until Rowan is gone". But I have had lightning flight folks lie to me that he's gone just for others to post he's still on the team roster.
That would have gotten Lightning on "avoid until Rowan is gone". But I have had lightning flight folks lie to me that he's gone just for others to post he's still on the team roster.
Ouch, sorry to hear it turned out like this. At least you tried, and I think that's all that can be reasonably expected of you. Best of luck to Fire Dom, it sounds like they're going to need a lot of it to sort out their issues.
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Why would you wish them luck? They obviously have a problem and refuse to fix it when it was shown to them.
Why would you wish them luck? They obviously have a problem and refuse to fix it when it was shown to them.
I'm sorry this happened to you. no idea why they want to keep her in charge of everything when, time and time again, she steps out on everyone when she's needed. it seems clear enough to me that letting her continue the way she has is not doing the flight any favors, so I can't imagine any reason for just choosing to not fix anything other than worries over duchess' or flight members' reactions (or both).
I DO wonder if there's genuine fear that she'd just take the dom funds with her if anyone tells her to get out. don't know if it's been brought up in this board recently and I'm being pedantic by saying it, but, yeah.
I DO wonder if there's genuine fear that she'd just take the dom funds with her if anyone tells her to get out. don't know if it's been brought up in this board recently and I'm being pedantic by saying it, but, yeah.
DA not totally related but why would it be that expensive?? my adhd dx was only $150 which was the cost of one psychiatrist visit...
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