It's not childish to "complain"—you're asking for help instead of just letting a project flounder, which is the responsible thing to do. The other anon gave great suggestions for that so I won't go into it any more. But re: your last question, I think there's a few reasons: 1. Young adults are pushed so hard to do things that will look good on a resume and it's easy to get stuck in a trap of overcommitting, especially if you're a high achiever or came from a pushy background; 2. College is a lot harder than some people expect and maybe they didn't realize the level of commitment needed for the org; 3. I struggled a lot with my mental health in college, and burnout is also pretty common among students.
I'm not saying it's not irresponsible of them to be behaving this way, but keep in mind that college is often the first time people have to handle their own affairs and if they weren't properly prepared for it and/or have mental health issues or other disabilities, it can be especially challenging. Hopefully the other women in your group do end up learning from the experience, at least. It can be hard to get out of that "must do everything" mindset, especially when you feel like others are relying on you to step up. Anyhow, I'm sorry you feel so alone and I hope you are able to get the support you need. You should not suffer because of your group members' failure to fulfill commitments.
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anonrerising2021-06-08 04:27 am
Re: OT Thread
(Anonymous) 2021-06-27 08:49 pm (UTC)(link)1. Young adults are pushed so hard to do things that will look good on a resume and it's easy to get stuck in a trap of overcommitting, especially if you're a high achiever or came from a pushy background;
2. College is a lot harder than some people expect and maybe they didn't realize the level of commitment needed for the org;
3. I struggled a lot with my mental health in college, and burnout is also pretty common among students.
I'm not saying it's not irresponsible of them to be behaving this way, but keep in mind that college is often the first time people have to handle their own affairs and if they weren't properly prepared for it and/or have mental health issues or other disabilities, it can be especially challenging. Hopefully the other women in your group do end up learning from the experience, at least. It can be hard to get out of that "must do everything" mindset, especially when you feel like others are relying on you to step up.
Anyhow, I'm sorry you feel so alone and I hope you are able to get the support you need. You should not suffer because of your group members' failure to fulfill commitments.