ehhh, i mean. it's a yellow flag for sus, imo. not a red flag.
even in the context of "regularly too poor to afford food/meds" i could understand maintaining a wishlist of feel-good items that would make you happy, and leaving it accessible for people to fulfill because, y'know, it's nice to have nice things even when everything is going to shit? you can still receive & appreciate gifts when you're in dire straits. (otoh if i were at risk of homelessness again, which it seems like they maybe are??? i would probably take the decor stuff off but keep things like nice blankets or cute clothes, as those would still be useful when homeless.)
i could also understand not wanting to "let go" of it from an emotional standpoint, like, getting rid of all the nice fun non-essential things and going down to the barest essentials on your wishlist could almost feel like giving up on the chance of joy in little non-essential things in life. when getting out of these situations, you have to have goals that aren't just the necessities. you need pleasant things to aim for and enjoy.
if they were actively dying i could also understand it in like, a make-a-wish kind of way? like "i'm dying anyway so i'd rather spend $700 on a custom fursuit to enjoy as i rapidly waste away." in the same way that people blow money on all sorts of things when death is genuinely imminent. but that doesn't seem to be their vibe lol they're not "fuck it, we ball" actively dying, they're "somebody save me" actively dying
No one here is saying poor people cannot have nice things or small joys. The cruel, guilt-tripping behavior that AstralCrescent is exhibiting is specifically tied to money and clearly feeling that they are owed other people's money. Because of that, the selection of items demonstrates the disingenuous nature of the entire endeavor. It's a scam, plain and simple.
add the fact that if you don't give money, they will very happily call you a murderer at the drop of a hat for 'not helping', regardless of whether the money you could have given would go to life-saving necessities or the luxuries.
It may very well just be how I was raised, but I can agree with you to a certain extent.
I would absolutely have a wish list of items that would make me happy, but I would be absolutely sure that other people knew not to give me these items, but rather would ask others to donate things that would be useful in my current situation and/or help out in other ways.
I would feel so guilty, especially at the price of these items, if people were paying that much to gift me them, when I could use the money for actual necessities. Like, I know that other people, especially the type of person who is likely to donate, are probably have just as hard of a time as I am, or maybe even harder, so I would want their donations to be truly helpful.
But, as I said, maybe it is just because that is how I was raised?
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Re: AC at it again
(Anonymous) 2025-02-15 07:51 pm (UTC)(link)even in the context of "regularly too poor to afford food/meds" i could understand maintaining a wishlist of feel-good items that would make you happy, and leaving it accessible for people to fulfill because, y'know, it's nice to have nice things even when everything is going to shit? you can still receive & appreciate gifts when you're in dire straits. (otoh if i were at risk of homelessness again, which it seems like they maybe are??? i would probably take the decor stuff off but keep things like nice blankets or cute clothes, as those would still be useful when homeless.)
i could also understand not wanting to "let go" of it from an emotional standpoint, like, getting rid of all the nice fun non-essential things and going down to the barest essentials on your wishlist could almost feel like giving up on the chance of joy in little non-essential things in life. when getting out of these situations, you have to have goals that aren't just the necessities. you need pleasant things to aim for and enjoy.
if they were actively dying i could also understand it in like, a make-a-wish kind of way? like "i'm dying anyway so i'd rather spend $700 on a custom fursuit to enjoy as i rapidly waste away." in the same way that people blow money on all sorts of things when death is genuinely imminent. but that doesn't seem to be their vibe lol they're not "fuck it, we ball" actively dying, they're "somebody save me" actively dying
Re: AC at it again
(Anonymous) 2025-02-15 08:26 pm (UTC)(link)Re: AC at it again
(Anonymous) 2025-02-15 08:46 pm (UTC)(link)Re: AC at it again
(Anonymous) 2025-02-16 05:18 am (UTC)(link)I would absolutely have a wish list of items that would make me happy, but I would be absolutely sure that other people knew not to give me these items, but rather would ask others to donate things that would be useful in my current situation and/or help out in other ways.
I would feel so guilty, especially at the price of these items, if people were paying that much to gift me them, when I could use the money for actual necessities. Like, I know that other people, especially the type of person who is likely to donate, are probably have just as hard of a time as I am, or maybe even harder, so I would want their donations to be truly helpful.
But, as I said, maybe it is just because that is how I was raised?