I have a DD, and I'm very. VERY careful about who knows, because of the knee jerk reactions TikTok and tumblr have created in folks wrt to folks with DD's. Only like... three people know- and my partner is NOT one of them, because of how people react to folks thanks to dumb ass teens on TT/tumblr.
I also don't spend any time on tiktok because it's a toxic cess pit. I use tumblr often, but I try to avoid most users that are plural or claim to be, because half the time, they have those asinine DNIs that are all "DNI if you have X person in your roster because I have the only REAL one."
That sounds awful, sorry. People constantly co-opting the condition in order to bully other people over shit like cartoon characters is wild to me and yet so goddamn common right now that I rarely see much pushback against it.
Because if you start calling these people out, they claim ableism and no one wins. Even if they're the ones screwing over the people who actually have said medical condition(s).
Also, I have seen people who have tried to push back, and others (who don't have the condition, whatever condition you are talking about) will come forth and go 'well, they are just children! they are exploring themselves! They are looking for attention! maybe one of them has it and can't get diagnosed, and seeing everyone else has it allows them to feel not as isolated!'
Trying to act like people pretending to have these conditions is a good thing, even though most of the time, those people have no clue about the actual condition, just the trendy parts.
I really hate how some people use the fact that they are children to sweep their bad behavior (applies to everything else other than pretending to have certain medical conditions too tbh) under the rug when it just means that they probably don't know any better, not that they shouldn't be disciplined in any way. They just end up being enabled and carry this shitty behavior into adulthood and wreck actual havoc.
There's literal teens getting arrested for pretending to have various medical conditions and essentially scamming people to donate to them ffs. It fucking sucks to be one of those people relying on crowdfunding to pay for their medical bills because of assholes like them.
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Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-09 07:26 am (UTC)(link)I also don't spend any time on tiktok because it's a toxic cess pit. I use tumblr often, but I try to avoid most users that are plural or claim to be, because half the time, they have those asinine DNIs that are all "DNI if you have X person in your roster because I have the only REAL one."
Like... what?
Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-09 07:39 am (UTC)(link)Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-09 08:00 am (UTC)(link)Because if you start calling these people out, they claim ableism and no one wins. Even if they're the ones screwing over the people who actually have said medical condition(s).
Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-09 12:25 pm (UTC)(link)Also, I have seen people who have tried to push back, and others (who don't have the condition, whatever condition you are talking about) will come forth and go 'well, they are just children! they are exploring themselves! They are looking for attention! maybe one of them has it and can't get diagnosed, and seeing everyone else has it allows them to feel not as isolated!'
Trying to act like people pretending to have these conditions is a good thing, even though most of the time, those people have no clue about the actual condition, just the trendy parts.
Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-10 01:17 am (UTC)(link)There's literal teens getting arrested for pretending to have various medical conditions and essentially scamming people to donate to them ffs. It fucking sucks to be one of those people relying on crowdfunding to pay for their medical bills because of assholes like them.
Re: Unpopular Opinion...
(Anonymous) 2023-08-10 07:11 am (UTC)(link)It must fucking suck*