Not even gender necessarily, but in general if someone gives you a pretty basic and reasonable boundary: "do not use that term to refer to me" You are 100% the asshole if you either continue to ignore their request or question why. It's not that hard to be respectful to reach other. x.x
willmod4munny, people told you this multiple times within the Tumblr post. It's weird that you still seem determined to defend yourself with excuses as to why you couldn't give someone the most basic amount of respect.
and sitten1115 also could have just disengaged with the situation if they didn't agree with that boundary. its a massive statement on their character that, upon seeing someone setting a boundary, they decided to intentionally disregard it again and again. and even now sitten1115 can't seem to get that, after multiple people on tumblr took the time to politely explain it to them. in that post here i barely see remorse, just a frustration at being accused of transphobia and disrespect.
Yes, I agree. I kept my message specific because you know there's going to be bad faith arguments like "what if someone scams but doesn't want to be called a scammer", lol. You worded it better than I did.
I stated multiple times in the tumblr stuff that I agree with that tho? Like in general if someone says they dont like a specific word used for them? I also never called the user in question guy. Nor was I the one to escalate the situation in the first place.
Like, did I word things badly in those responses? People keep bringing up that when I did say multiple times that yes I agree, if someone says they don’t want the word guy used for them then dont use it. I dont like how other people in the conversation had implied they wouldn’t respect that, but I dont think I actually saw any of them call them guy after (doesn’t make the implication better). However I also may have failed to process it if they did. Sometimes my brain is rude like that and I can read something multiple times without it actually mattering.
Like, I do regret the comment, in the AITA comments someone actually did explain it. While I do think the actual situation was a bad faith “did you just assume my gender” thing, that doesn’t change that gender doesn’t equal pronouns. And while I still dont fully understand the not equal, I dont have to understand it to respect it.
Tbh that was my first comment in the whole screenshots thing and then i kinda just, went on a tangent because I do that. (Also I know I am bad at disengaging, like, thats just a common issue for me possibly related to executive dysfunction? Idk, it just means sometimes I need someone to tell me it’s time to stop talking in circles). Also tend to overexplain stuff, which tumblr comments caused issues with but no character limit to yell at me here!
its time to stop talking in circles. kind of embarrassing that you need drama anons to tell you that after multiple users on multiple posts already said this to you tbqh
This is me telling you its time to stop talking in circles.
Part of whats making you come across as disingenuous is that you just keep saying the same things over and over, which gives the impression you're not listening. (I'm going to assume for the sake of this reply that this is not true, but it is the impression you give.)
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Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-22 06:35 pm (UTC)(link)willmod4munny, people told you this multiple times within the Tumblr post. It's weird that you still seem determined to defend yourself with excuses as to why you couldn't give someone the most basic amount of respect.
Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-22 06:49 pm (UTC)(link)and sitten1115 also could have just disengaged with the situation if they didn't agree with that boundary. its a massive statement on their character that, upon seeing someone setting a boundary, they decided to intentionally disregard it again and again. and even now sitten1115 can't seem to get that, after multiple people on tumblr took the time to politely explain it to them. in that post here i barely see remorse, just a frustration at being accused of transphobia and disrespect.
Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-22 06:51 pm (UTC)(link)Yes, I agree. I kept my message specific because you know there's going to be bad faith arguments like "what if someone scams but doesn't want to be called a scammer", lol. You worded it better than I did.
Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-22 07:06 pm (UTC)(link)Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-23 02:35 pm (UTC)(link)Like, did I word things badly in those responses? People keep bringing up that when I did say multiple times that yes I agree, if someone says they don’t want the word guy used for them then dont use it. I dont like how other people in the conversation had implied they wouldn’t respect that, but I dont think I actually saw any of them call them guy after (doesn’t make the implication better). However I also may have failed to process it if they did. Sometimes my brain is rude like that and I can read something multiple times without it actually mattering.
Like, I do regret the comment, in the AITA comments someone actually did explain it. While I do think the actual situation was a bad faith “did you just assume my gender” thing, that doesn’t change that gender doesn’t equal pronouns. And while I still dont fully understand the not equal, I dont have to understand it to respect it.
Tbh that was my first comment in the whole screenshots thing and then i kinda just, went on a tangent because I do that. (Also I know I am bad at disengaging, like, thats just a common issue for me possibly related to executive dysfunction? Idk, it just means sometimes I need someone to tell me it’s time to stop talking in circles). Also tend to overexplain stuff, which tumblr comments caused issues with but no character limit to yell at me here!
Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-23 02:52 pm (UTC)(link)Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-23 03:05 pm (UTC)(link)Re: The saltmine
(Anonymous) 2023-06-23 03:10 pm (UTC)(link)Part of whats making you come across as disingenuous is that you just keep saying the same things over and over, which gives the impression you're not listening. (I'm going to assume for the sake of this reply that this is not true, but it is the impression you give.)
Seriously just disengage