Thank you for your kind words. They really mean a lot.
Your description of them is an accurate description of their behavior toward me and others currently and formerly in their friend group. As opposed to asking for help from their friends, they demand it. If they do not do enough in their eyes, they berate them and guilt trip them, often publicly. The helpless persona they used made it hard for me to cut them off and left me wracked with guilt afterwards. I believe that guilt combined with just how bad their abuse was made it difficult for me to establish boundaries and to recognize toxic behavior in future friendships. I have since learned how to set and enforce boundaries and to stop thinking "It's not that bad!" if someone behaves inappropriately, but it was a journey getting to that point. Hopefully the reputation they have created will reduce the number of future victims they can lure in because I would not wish this on my worst enemies.
You are also correct about their partner. I witnessed them verbally ripping into their partner constantly over harmless mistakes or for no reason at all. I hope PE has changed in that aspect but I am not hopeful based on their public behavior.
You mentioned Final Fantasy XIV: I tried to find their characters there to avoid and I was able to find their entire guild on there by searching a few of their RP characters' names. It came as a BIG relief to see that they are not on my data center. But looking over their gear I see the telltale signs that they and their partner have been purchasing or have been gifted many job and story skips for their many characters. These range in price from 15-25 dollars each except during half-off sales. I stopped counting after a few characters and saw at least TEN of these skips.
I completely support people in poverty having access to luxuries and I can understand one or two of them. But TEN PLUS? Yikes. To top it all off, their levels/gear reveals they are not even using these skipped characters and jobs to play the game. It makes me sad that people donated hoping to help someone in need only for that money to be spent on UNUSED premium, non-essential video game content. Not to mention, this sort of behavior makes it harder for people in need to receive aid because of a few bad apples trying to scam.
Re: AstralCrescent is PrinceEridan with ANOTHER multi ring
did not know who the hell this person was, was just skimming flatview when i see FFXIV mentioned and now i gotta know who they are... im baffled. relaying this to my XIV buddies and they're having a riot.
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Re: AstralCrescent is PrinceEridan with ANOTHER multi ring
(Anonymous) 2023-03-31 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)Your description of them is an accurate description of their behavior toward me and others currently and formerly in their friend group. As opposed to asking for help from their friends, they demand it. If they do not do enough in their eyes, they berate them and guilt trip them, often publicly. The helpless persona they used made it hard for me to cut them off and left me wracked with guilt afterwards. I believe that guilt combined with just how bad their abuse was made it difficult for me to establish boundaries and to recognize toxic behavior in future friendships. I have since learned how to set and enforce boundaries and to stop thinking "It's not that bad!" if someone behaves inappropriately, but it was a journey getting to that point. Hopefully the reputation they have created will reduce the number of future victims they can lure in because I would not wish this on my worst enemies.
You are also correct about their partner. I witnessed them verbally ripping into their partner constantly over harmless mistakes or for no reason at all. I hope PE has changed in that aspect but I am not hopeful based on their public behavior.
You mentioned Final Fantasy XIV: I tried to find their characters there to avoid and I was able to find their entire guild on there by searching a few of their RP characters' names. It came as a BIG relief to see that they are not on my data center. But looking over their gear I see the telltale signs that they and their partner have been purchasing or have been gifted many job and story skips for their many characters. These range in price from 15-25 dollars each except during half-off sales. I stopped counting after a few characters and saw at least TEN of these skips.
I completely support people in poverty having access to luxuries and I can understand one or two of them. But TEN PLUS? Yikes. To top it all off, their levels/gear reveals they are not even using these skipped characters and jobs to play the game. It makes me sad that people donated hoping to help someone in need only for that money to be spent on UNUSED premium, non-essential video game content. Not to mention, this sort of behavior makes it harder for people in need to receive aid because of a few bad apples trying to scam.
Re: AstralCrescent is PrinceEridan with ANOTHER multi ring
(Anonymous) 2023-04-01 02:16 am (UTC)(link)