I'm not trying to be a dick, but I am curious!!: what does being chronically ill/disabled have to do with taking a while to respond to something? I don't have any (physical) disabilities and I usually still take days/weeks/NEVER to respond to posts or PMs? I don't have a reason for my tardiness tbh other than having a lack of attention span. Do people actually care that much if you're slightly unresponsive? :O And if so, do they really need to know why? Sorry if I am coming off as an accusing tone, I just want to know your perspective and you have no obligation to answer me! :)
Stating your disability on a disability blog absolutely makes sense though as that context checks out 100%. Just curious about a petsim though.
Because of dumb kids, lol. I've had multiple instances where a kid PM'ed me about a sale, and it took me over 24 hours to answer bc of my chronic illness. In most of those cases, the asshole kid threw a fit bc I didn't answer them immediately. (24 hours? Bruh, pls chill.)
In one of the random rare cases, it was an RP reply, and the person I was rp'ing with actually got worried and freaked out because I didn't respond for over a month bc I was in the hospital.
I don't mention it right off the bat or have it on my profile. It's literally a single line in a bio on one of my dragons, and folks really have to dig for it- so basically? The folks desperate enough to dig through my profile and find said dragon will read the bio and hopefully go "Oh." and hopefully feel stupid for being an asshole.
It's a "Last ditch attempt" at explaining why I sometimes go for MONTHS without responding to someone, or why my dragons sometimes starve for months on end, only for me to pop back up.
Unfortunately some people do care a lot and get rude about it, and I think people want to preemptively put a damper on that by stating a 'good' reason. It's their right to do so but I don't like that it sometimes comes from feeling pressured into it. It's very easy to forget about messages that you've read but intended to reply to later even with 0 disabilities/health problems, 'out of sight out of mind' etc.
There should just be less expectation for people to respond @ the speed of a face-to-face convo lol. I'm busy and have a spaghetti strainer for a brain okay
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Re: BumbleWing
(Anonymous) 2021-08-08 09:57 am (UTC)(link)Stating your disability on a disability blog absolutely makes sense though as that context checks out 100%. Just curious about a petsim though.
Re: BumbleWing
(Anonymous) 2021-08-08 11:02 am (UTC)(link)Because of dumb kids, lol. I've had multiple instances where a kid PM'ed me about a sale, and it took me over 24 hours to answer bc of my chronic illness. In most of those cases, the asshole kid threw a fit bc I didn't answer them immediately. (24 hours? Bruh, pls chill.)
In one of the random rare cases, it was an RP reply, and the person I was rp'ing with actually got worried and freaked out because I didn't respond for over a month bc I was in the hospital.
I don't mention it right off the bat or have it on my profile. It's literally a single line in a bio on one of my dragons, and folks really have to dig for it- so basically? The folks desperate enough to dig through my profile and find said dragon will read the bio and hopefully go "Oh." and hopefully feel stupid for being an asshole.
It's a "Last ditch attempt" at explaining why I sometimes go for MONTHS without responding to someone, or why my dragons sometimes starve for months on end, only for me to pop back up.
Re: BumbleWing
(Anonymous) 2021-08-08 11:31 am (UTC)(link)Ooohhhh gotcha, gotcha. Thanks for the reply! I am sorry people have been so impatient with you, thats not cool D:
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(Anonymous) 2021-08-08 11:50 am (UTC)(link)And it's no big deal- normally the younger folks are "Omg, I'm sorry" when they find out, and don't do it again. The ones who are still assholes?
Blocked, lol.
Re: BumbleWing
(Anonymous) 2021-08-08 04:08 pm (UTC)(link)There should just be less expectation for people to respond @ the speed of a face-to-face convo lol. I'm busy and have a spaghetti strainer for a brain okay