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There is so much more going on with fire. It's making it really hard to stomach.
a friend in fire confirmed this for me. literally NOTHING on the forums regarding battle prep.
I was an ember when things got real murky in fire. I watched people leave in large numbers after duchess dipped on a push the same way she did this.
I wanted to stay loyal to fire but I can't with her involved. I donated 30 boss familiars and they never made it to the spreadsheet. Stone borer, frost deliver, overcharged silverbeast to name a few. I made specific notes in the PM this wasn't for her but for firedom. They never got used or listed. I am blocked, can't message her and I got booted from the fire discord she runs too. I am in water now. Highly recommen pessi!!! Let fire die
I wanted to stay loyal to fire but I can't with her involved. I donated 30 boss familiars and they never made it to the spreadsheet. Stone borer, frost deliver, overcharged silverbeast to name a few. I made specific notes in the PM this wasn't for her but for firedom. They never got used or listed. I am blocked, can't message her and I got booted from the fire discord she runs too. I am in water now. Highly recommen pessi!!! Let fire die
wait, what the hell? she just made donations disappear, and blocked and (potentially? unless you know it was her specifically) kicked you????? wow
She was the one who did it, that was confirmed for me when a friend asked her about it. She told my friend I was bothering people in the discord. I never posted though? I was a big time lurker.
I will say again, water is complete different.
I will say again, water is complete different.
Wow, so sorry that happened to you.
Long shot but if you still have the PMs in-game and if she blocked you on FR as well (unsure if it's just Discord block or both Discord+game), you could perhaps report her for bad faith trades? At worst, nothing will happen to her but that's scammy if anything to just take your shit specifically for the dom bank, not document it anywhere in the sheets AND block you as well.
Long shot but if you still have the PMs in-game and if she blocked you on FR as well (unsure if it's just Discord block or both Discord+game), you could perhaps report her for bad faith trades? At worst, nothing will happen to her but that's scammy if anything to just take your shit specifically for the dom bank, not document it anywhere in the sheets AND block you as well.
Pessi:
I wish i was joking but yeah… trust me when I say i’m just as disappointed as you are. I am really sorry- I even talked about us boarding a WHILE ago and there was still zero movement in the team.
That being said, I hope Ice will give yall a fun fight. I really wish we could’ve had the battle, but it wouldn’t be fun for either parties with how disorganized things would be. Again i’m really sorry, I tried to get things moving but for the most part my msgs seemed to have been skipped over when I brought up the idea to board a while ago.
I wish i was joking but yeah… trust me when I say i’m just as disappointed as you are. I am really sorry- I even talked about us boarding a WHILE ago and there was still zero movement in the team.
That being said, I hope Ice will give yall a fun fight. I really wish we could’ve had the battle, but it wouldn’t be fun for either parties with how disorganized things would be. Again i’m really sorry, I tried to get things moving but for the most part my msgs seemed to have been skipped over when I brought up the idea to board a while ago.
Pessi:
As much as it would be easy to dip from Fire entirely, I don’t want to leave the flight like this either.
I’m putting something together, I just need time. Expect something by October.
As much as it would be easy to dip from Fire entirely, I don’t want to leave the flight like this either.
I’m putting something together, I just need time. Expect something by October.
Well, yay for new venue, but bugs are my least favorite familiars. :/
I did report her, got back a generic "once it leaves your account its out of our hands"
AYRT
hey, don't be sorry. ultimately this is just a hobby, you don't have to beat yourself up about something that is 1. out of your control and 2. a petsite community event. i really appreciate what you're doing, spreading the word about fire's dominance organization, because no one has any fun when a dom team is poorly organized and it's really unfair and shitty that duchess is not communicating. but in the end i'm not gonna spend my day angry that the battle fell through, especially because of just a handful of people's poor leadership. i hope you're having an ok day even through the stress of handling all this dom drama.
hey, don't be sorry. ultimately this is just a hobby, you don't have to beat yourself up about something that is 1. out of your control and 2. a petsite community event. i really appreciate what you're doing, spreading the word about fire's dominance organization, because no one has any fun when a dom team is poorly organized and it's really unfair and shitty that duchess is not communicating. but in the end i'm not gonna spend my day angry that the battle fell through, especially because of just a handful of people's poor leadership. i hope you're having an ok day even through the stress of handling all this dom drama.
And now to recalibrate muscle memory because I keep choosing Harpy's Roost instead of Ghostlight Ruins in venue selection.
All of Duchess's social media is linked on her FR tumblr, which is linked on her FR profile. She was active on multiple sites during this, but couldn't hop on discord to give a quick update, apparently.
I don't want to directly link these profiles because they are full of the kind of information you should never share with a stranger on the internet. Seriously, everything and more.
I don't want to directly link these profiles because they are full of the kind of information you should never share with a stranger on the internet. Seriously, everything and more.
You don't even have to look off-site for this. She had achievement activity on Aug 28 during fest week. Granted, collecting achievements is easier than communicating on Discord but still, it's very suspicious.
Pessi:
I took a look at the social media and yeah, there's some concerning things on there in terms of oversharing. Especially with her twitter, I saw some anti-white and anti-america stuff on there among other strongly worded things, as well as NSFW comments which.. idk. I won't get into it, but it was definitely offputting for me, and I don't think that's a great look for someone currently representing firedom among other things. There's also older posts where she traveled right around when I would assume a flameforgers push was going on... Which, it states that she travels or wants to travel a lot. Make what yall will of this.
And i'm not one to look through things like this, but all of this was laughably easy to access... I'm surprised there were no background checks performed or anything prior to her stepping up..? Then again, I don't think Flight Rising is a platform most would go that far to do so I suppose. Either way, that's another reason I am offput by her being the current lead, her behavior on her socials is not professional whatsoever and it seems to reflect how she's treated others in the past.
I took a look at the social media and yeah, there's some concerning things on there in terms of oversharing. Especially with her twitter, I saw some anti-white and anti-america stuff on there among other strongly worded things, as well as NSFW comments which.. idk. I won't get into it, but it was definitely offputting for me, and I don't think that's a great look for someone currently representing firedom among other things. There's also older posts where she traveled right around when I would assume a flameforgers push was going on... Which, it states that she travels or wants to travel a lot. Make what yall will of this.
And i'm not one to look through things like this, but all of this was laughably easy to access... I'm surprised there were no background checks performed or anything prior to her stepping up..? Then again, I don't think Flight Rising is a platform most would go that far to do so I suppose. Either way, that's another reason I am offput by her being the current lead, her behavior on her socials is not professional whatsoever and it seems to reflect how she's treated others in the past.
wish you'd linked them, looks like she deleted the links. I'm curious to see the stuff Pessi mentioned.
She must have deleted some of her stuff because the most recent stuff I saw on twitter was from Eurovision, and she hasn't been active on her personal tumblr in six months.
Pessi: A follow up to this actually, I believe back when she was solely... "moderating", she made this post on her twitter:
"lords above save me from the fragile emotions of teens in discord server lol I understand and empathize but like, an adult saying they would not like to interact with you and asking you politely to comply is not illegal holy shit
also, posting triggering shit about suicide un-spoilered in public channels and then pikachu-facing when people kinda dislike you after??? child you are causing me physical pain istg" - Posted on November 9th 2021
From my understanding and what I've been told, there was a young ember dealing with some things mentally, and I believe it was also known that they also have mental issues going on on top of it. While that is not an excuse for their behavior, the fact that Duchess posted this publicly on her Twitter is also not excusable. It's one thing to vent about the situation privately, but when you are publicly posting this *as the dom lead AND community manager*- since there were no moderators during this time, is very unprofessional and harmful. I hope the person who she was talking about did not come across this at the time, because considering what I can tell from their mental health at the time based on what I'm going off of here, it could've ended VERY poorly.
Again, a simple background check can really help you see the character of someone. I've heard about others being made very uncomfortable by Duch for coming to her for very important things only to be dismissed. I recall when I made the IF Fire server there were people grateful that there were mods specifically for this reason- and im fairly certain that is what pushed duchess to finally hire mods in the OOF Fire server in the first place.
Again I apologize if I am being very blunt or harsh, but again, this among a lot of other things has left a very sour taste in my mouth and this is why I no longer will work with AA under Duchess.
"lords above save me from the fragile emotions of teens in discord server lol I understand and empathize but like, an adult saying they would not like to interact with you and asking you politely to comply is not illegal holy shit
also, posting triggering shit about suicide un-spoilered in public channels and then pikachu-facing when people kinda dislike you after??? child you are causing me physical pain istg" - Posted on November 9th 2021
From my understanding and what I've been told, there was a young ember dealing with some things mentally, and I believe it was also known that they also have mental issues going on on top of it. While that is not an excuse for their behavior, the fact that Duchess posted this publicly on her Twitter is also not excusable. It's one thing to vent about the situation privately, but when you are publicly posting this *as the dom lead AND community manager*- since there were no moderators during this time, is very unprofessional and harmful. I hope the person who she was talking about did not come across this at the time, because considering what I can tell from their mental health at the time based on what I'm going off of here, it could've ended VERY poorly.
Again, a simple background check can really help you see the character of someone. I've heard about others being made very uncomfortable by Duch for coming to her for very important things only to be dismissed. I recall when I made the IF Fire server there were people grateful that there were mods specifically for this reason- and im fairly certain that is what pushed duchess to finally hire mods in the OOF Fire server in the first place.
Again I apologize if I am being very blunt or harsh, but again, this among a lot of other things has left a very sour taste in my mouth and this is why I no longer will work with AA under Duchess.
im not sure how "anti-white" or "anti-america" sentiment are relevant to what duchess is doing overall
It isn't. Let's not get on a derailment thread with that.
Edited 2023-09-06 03:26 (UTC)
https://imgur.com/a/CkmL21q
Oh she did delete stuff. Which to me proves that she was lying about her injury because pessi posts this shit and then it vanished almost instantly from her stuff fml duchess needs to leave fire alone
These contain screenshots of her twitter last year when she was traveling during a flameforger's push I believe. Iirc nobody was informed of this either.
https://imgur.com/a/PgLASAw
https://imgur.com/a/PgLASAw
Meh, was the twitter her personal twitter or FR twitter? If the latter sure that's a little weird, but I don't think you need to represent your dom team on your personal twitter lol. Those tweets are correct.
there is nothing wrong with dom orgs traveling as long as there are other dom orgs to pick up the slack, which frankly they could have done if they knew duchess was unreliable. I think you should stick to criticisms of how she stole items or whatever because your concern over her "anti-America" sentiments would make half of FR roll their eyes. not to mention the anti-America tweets were pertaining to football lol.
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