I’m tired of working to get to qualify as “good” on FlightRising and someone always comes in to flex that they have achieved 10 times the amount. Good for them, they deserve it, but every time I try to say something I’m proud of, they come in and squash my enthusiasm by saying they did better.
I got items that I am super happy to have, but it’s never enough to them. I mention something I managed to do that’s a rarity for myself? They did it better and more of it. I managed to get something for cheap? They got something cheaper that’s worth way more. Someone gifted me something? Someone gifted them multiple rare items for free. I get a good hatch? They got a better hatch that sells for twice as much as mine.
This game isn’t fun anymore. I'm never going to be good enough so why should I bother any further? I’ve already denned everything and never touching this game again.
I'm sorry this happened to you anon, and I don't know how else to counteract this other than my own method, since this happens to me sometimes. What I've learned to do is to just take it in stride. If someone one-ups me, I'll try to be supportive about it or shrug it off, because I know I won't end up feeling good about anything or myself if I remain bitter. I've kind of accepted that there will always be somebody better than me, but as long as I'm having my own fun, that's all I care about.
Comparing yourself to others all the time ends up detrimental to your fun, and I ended up taking a step back from the game and re-evaluating these types of thoughts and trying to work stuff out that way when I went back into the game. It sucks that they do that, and maybe they are just trying to make themselves feel better/superior to you, but the second you feel inferior to them is the moment they win. And there will always be people like that no matter where you go, no matter what game nor community you put yourself in.
Perhaps try to find a better environment/section of the community where this doesn't happen, or happen as much? Though, I'm a little unsure of what to suggest. I don't know where this occurs for you, but I'd make a solid guess that FRD is the worst offender of this happening. In Discord servers, this happens to me too, though not as often as I've seen it happen on FRD, but I know not everyone likes using Discord. I wish I could offer better advice, but I just wish you the best. :(
TLDR; Someone is always going to be better than you, but you can't let that determine how you feel about your own achievements. You shouldn't play Flight Rising to be "good", that's not a good mindset. You should be playing to have fun, regardless of what other people are doing. One of the things I like about Flight Rising is that you can play it however way you want, really. You don't need to go for all familiars, you don't need to collect rare or valuable dragons, you can just do whatever. Comparing yourself to others is natural, and it sucks sometimes, but in the end it's your choice whether to let it be detrimental to your fun or for it to not have a hold over you.
And I hope I'm not coming off as preachy or any of that shit, I just thought this may be able to help you in some way, but if not, I apologize. Even if you don't come back to the game, I hope you can find that fun elsewhere!
hey anon, i'm sorry that this happened to you. i know how you feel. when i first started there was always a bunch of users who always seem to be "up there" and it felt that no matter how hard you worked in the game, or how rich you finally felt, there was going to be someone who chimed in and would proceed to just flaunt, and in general take all the attention away from you. it was so frustrating that i also considered quitting the game.
i realised a short while after that there was always going to be people attention seeking on others' threads, because that sounded like a great idea to them. i set personal goals for myself and enjoyed the process to whatever i wanted to work for, and it felt so much better when you get something that you judge yourself to be really valuable. try not to frequent places like FRD because it seems most of these attention-seeking fellas hawk that place.
the great thing about FR is that anything can be a playstyle, as long as you're having fun. it's true that comparisons are always bound to happen, but if it starts bothering you, or others are really bothering you, you've gotta fight it off. i hope it doesn't sound like i'm dictating your playstyle, but i do hope you keep playing and find the sense of fun just chilling with some pixel dragons you love.
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anonrerising2022-05-03 09:24 pm
Re: Wanker Thread
(Anonymous) 2022-07-03 06:40 pm (UTC)(link)I’m tired of working to get to qualify as “good” on FlightRising and someone always comes in to flex that they have achieved 10 times the amount. Good for them, they deserve it, but every time I try to say something I’m proud of, they come in and squash my enthusiasm by saying they did better.
I got items that I am super happy to have, but it’s never enough to them. I mention something I managed to do that’s a rarity for myself? They did it better and more of it. I managed to get something for cheap? They got something cheaper that’s worth way more. Someone gifted me something? Someone gifted them multiple rare items for free. I get a good hatch? They got a better hatch that sells for twice as much as mine.
This game isn’t fun anymore. I'm never going to be good enough so why should I bother any further? I’ve already denned everything and never touching this game again.
Re: Wanker Thread
(Anonymous) 2022-07-03 08:18 pm (UTC)(link)+1
(Anonymous) 2022-07-12 04:37 am (UTC)(link)play for yourself and ignore the rest, or just take a break until you learn that.
Re: +1
(Anonymous) 2022-07-12 04:42 am (UTC)(link)Re: Wanker Thread
(Anonymous) 2022-07-03 09:28 pm (UTC)(link)hey guys i finally was able to send my dragon to mars!!! i'm so happy!
oh my godd i've been grinding this forever but dragon world hunger is cured now :3
*posts a picture of god in my lair* she
Re: Wanker Thread
(Anonymous) 2022-07-04 01:12 am (UTC)(link)Comparing yourself to others all the time ends up detrimental to your fun, and I ended up taking a step back from the game and re-evaluating these types of thoughts and trying to work stuff out that way when I went back into the game. It sucks that they do that, and maybe they are just trying to make themselves feel better/superior to you, but the second you feel inferior to them is the moment they win. And there will always be people like that no matter where you go, no matter what game nor community you put yourself in.
Perhaps try to find a better environment/section of the community where this doesn't happen, or happen as much? Though, I'm a little unsure of what to suggest. I don't know where this occurs for you, but I'd make a solid guess that FRD is the worst offender of this happening. In Discord servers, this happens to me too, though not as often as I've seen it happen on FRD, but I know not everyone likes using Discord. I wish I could offer better advice, but I just wish you the best. :(
TLDR; Someone is always going to be better than you, but you can't let that determine how you feel about your own achievements. You shouldn't play Flight Rising to be "good", that's not a good mindset. You should be playing to have fun, regardless of what other people are doing. One of the things I like about Flight Rising is that you can play it however way you want, really. You don't need to go for all familiars, you don't need to collect rare or valuable dragons, you can just do whatever. Comparing yourself to others is natural, and it sucks sometimes, but in the end it's your choice whether to let it be detrimental to your fun or for it to not have a hold over you.
And I hope I'm not coming off as preachy or any of that shit, I just thought this may be able to help you in some way, but if not, I apologize. Even if you don't come back to the game, I hope you can find that fun elsewhere!
Re: Wanker Thread
(Anonymous) 2022-07-04 07:15 am (UTC)(link)i realised a short while after that there was always going to be people attention seeking on others' threads, because that sounded like a great idea to them. i set personal goals for myself and enjoyed the process to whatever i wanted to work for, and it felt so much better when you get something that you judge yourself to be really valuable. try not to frequent places like FRD because it seems most of these attention-seeking fellas hawk that place.
the great thing about FR is that anything can be a playstyle, as long as you're having fun. it's true that comparisons are always bound to happen, but if it starts bothering you, or others are really bothering you, you've gotta fight it off. i hope it doesn't sound like i'm dictating your playstyle, but i do hope you keep playing and find the sense of fun just chilling with some pixel dragons you love.