Because the way original post was worded, it looked like you were looking for support of your take, not discussion about it.
"Hey guys, does this seem wrong/appropriative?" has different tone than including "some boho "wild g*psy spirit" white person". Expecting polite conversatiin after starting it like that on an anon com when you were the one perceeved as hostile first will result in exactly this.
I see falling back to the race card is the best argument you have when not agreed with, and you don't want to see that, in conversation, the tone is important. If you feel the need to degarde ther person you converse with, you might be the problem.
If you want to see it as me being offended, go ahead. I was trying to explain to OP why they received such backlash, but it seems it went over some heads.
Thank you; the layout is confusing. It means that thet OP is probably a better person than I gave them credit for.
As for others that seem to follow the convo trail, try better than being an ass. As a minority in my country, I hope people like some of you never defend or argue in our stead by using such tone and language to "help the cause".
Whoever wrote the reply jumped to white fragility, instead of debunking my statement that OP set the tone of discussion badly.
What is there to talk about when saying "you sounded like an ass when asking, so you got backlash" and being met with "white fragility in action". So why should I keep the conversation going?
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(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 10:18 am (UTC)(link)"Hey guys, does this seem wrong/appropriative?" has different tone than including "some boho "wild g*psy spirit" white person". Expecting polite conversatiin after starting it like that on an anon com when you were the one perceeved as hostile first will result in exactly this.
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 11:50 am (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 02:43 pm (UTC)(link)Also using a barely censored slur to make your "point", bad taste
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(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 02:48 pm (UTC)(link)white fragility in action
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(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 03:03 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 03:09 pm (UTC)(link)Keep pushing away people, even the ones that were willing to listen, by acting like this.
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 03:13 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 03:53 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 04:06 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 03:59 pm (UTC)(link)AYRT is way more offended than the OP at this point
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(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 04:05 pm (UTC)(link)Cheers!
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 04:08 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 04:50 pm (UTC)(link)It means that thet OP is probably a better person than I gave them credit for.
As for others that seem to follow the convo trail, try better than being an ass.
As a minority in my country, I hope people like some of you never defend or argue in our stead by using such tone and language to "help the cause".
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 05:15 pm (UTC)(link)are we trading actual race cards now?
signed,
a literal card-carrying ndn
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 06:19 pm (UTC)(link)So I looked up "ndn" and it means Native Indian, right? (usually referred to North American natives)?
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 07:09 pm (UTC)(link)What is there to talk about when saying "you sounded like an ass when asking, so you got backlash" and being met with "white fragility in action". So why should I keep the conversation going?
(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)(frozen comment) Re: nature foddart
(Anonymous) 2021-05-20 08:13 pm (UTC)(link)https://m.imgur.com/VvfCVQZ