this is something i dont understand and i guess since this conversation is happening this might be an opportunity for me to understand it so sorry for hopping on here. I don't like queer being applied to myself, a gay man, for many reasons, but i also will call myself fag and my friends faggots, whatever we do as faggy etc. To me this seems similar to how others use queer, reclaiming something and taking its power away/rejecting being 'one of the good ones,' but i would not consider it insulting to my identity as a fag for someone else to say 'dont call me the f-slur,' what is it that makes it rejecting of your identity to recognize the word as something that is recognized as a slur?
Lesbian who very casually reclaims the word dyke here and agreed with this 100%, someone saying "Don't call me the d-slur" isn't a personal attack to me or other people in my boat.
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anonrerising2022-08-02 07:34 pm
Re: not trying to stir anything
(Anonymous) 2022-10-17 01:23 pm (UTC)(link)this is something i dont understand and i guess since this conversation is happening this might be an opportunity for me to understand it so sorry for hopping on here. I don't like queer being applied to myself, a gay man, for many reasons, but i also will call myself fag and my friends faggots, whatever we do as faggy etc. To me this seems similar to how others use queer, reclaiming something and taking its power away/rejecting being 'one of the good ones,' but i would not consider it insulting to my identity as a fag for someone else to say 'dont call me the f-slur,' what is it that makes it rejecting of your identity to recognize the word as something that is recognized as a slur?
Re: not trying to stir anything
(Anonymous) 2022-10-19 05:02 pm (UTC)(link)