If me trying to politely teach people complex topics and therefore using a few too many big words and long paragraphs for you is whining then I pity any teacher you’ve ever had to be honest
ok I will admit this is valid criticism, somehow throughout the entire conversation it didn’t occur to me to send an ask with the entire explanation e.e that was not on purpose but I will take the L on that and apologize, I am not an avid ask sender and forgot about that avenue
christ here you go again who cares about the context i am tired of seeing your whiny ass in the threads PERIOD. you're a drama queen that actively stalks the suggestion forums // SMR to get bent over on tumblr. i get the ones where people are calling you out for your art laziness but you make smr miserable with your behavior. not everything needs a ten paragraph insight from you dude.
Please do enlighten me what suggestion forums I stalk, given that I don't ever go there or post there. It sounds to me like you're making up a guy to be mad about, and it has less to do with me and more to do with you. I hope you get whatever help you need to deal with this because it doesn't sound like a problem I can help you with, and no matter what I say to you you will simply continue hating me. Have a good day, and if you're ready to get off anon so I can block you please do.
it's the way you hover over anonymous drama sites while nameposting that puts people off like why are you here right now defending yourself to anons with BEC syndrome? it reads like a control issue
I mean I'm not going to try and pretend like it isn't me somewhat obsessing over knowing what people are saying about me and wanting to try and defend myself, and I won't lie and say that I know I shouldn't and I should just let it all go, but it's difficult to see people shitting on you and not want to defend yourself, ya know? Try and at least clear the air, or explain my viewpoint and have some kind of productive conversation to get to at least a mutual understanding.
A lot of my posting just comes down to the fact that I want to come to some kind of mutual understanding where, even if it turns out both I and whatever anon I'm talking to end up still disagreeing, at least its mutual and not someone just actively shitting on me for a reason they made up.
So I am sorry for coming off as hovering/like I have control issues about it, I can't say its healthy to constantly want to see what people are saying, but at this moment I don't really know how to stop it/I cannot logically stop once I have started. No excuse, still looks shitty, but I guess that's the only explanation I can give
yeah, anxiety is a bitch. you can't please everyone and the sooner you swallow that pill the better
if a therapist isn't an option, look up DBT worksheets. i think concepts like "radical acceptance" and "opposite action" would be useful to you. make that anxiety YOUR bitch
yeah, thanks for understanding and being respectful about it, I do genuinely know its a problem and acknowledge it but *motions vaguely* logic doesn't usually prevail when you've got bad anxiety.
I will definitely look those things up and if anything all of this, as abrasive as the anon was, still gave me a good pause to look at myself and that what I'm doing isn't healthy either. I'll keep trying not to care as much about what people say but I can only hope it'll go well orz I think I need a dedicated person to hold me by the scruff like a kitten whenever I see someone posting about me so I have time to think before I instantly start trying to reply
I used to make myself angry and miserable browsing drama blogs (much less tame than the FR drama blogs) and what helped for me is using the cold turkey blocker to block them straight up. Once I'd done so I lost the compulsive need to check on them, since it'd become a bad habit to type in the URL when I had nothing to do. Perhaps this could be the solution for you?
Lol you sure are giving some rando a lot of power over you, letting them make you miserable over some comments on a drama blog. I don't like them either, but it takes a couple clicks to block them on tumblr and then all your notes will be ado free. Easy peasy.
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(Anonymous) 2022-09-10 09:42 pm (UTC)(link)A lot of my posting just comes down to the fact that I want to come to some kind of mutual understanding where, even if it turns out both I and whatever anon I'm talking to end up still disagreeing, at least its mutual and not someone just actively shitting on me for a reason they made up.
So I am sorry for coming off as hovering/like I have control issues about it, I can't say its healthy to constantly want to see what people are saying, but at this moment I don't really know how to stop it/I cannot logically stop once I have started. No excuse, still looks shitty, but I guess that's the only explanation I can give
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(Anonymous) 2022-09-10 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)yeah, anxiety is a bitch. you can't please everyone and the sooner you swallow that pill the better
if a therapist isn't an option, look up DBT worksheets. i think concepts like "radical acceptance" and "opposite action" would be useful to you. make that anxiety YOUR bitch
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(Anonymous) 2022-09-10 10:05 pm (UTC)(link)I will definitely look those things up and if anything all of this, as abrasive as the anon was, still gave me a good pause to look at myself and that what I'm doing isn't healthy either. I'll keep trying not to care as much about what people say but I can only hope it'll go well orz I think I need a dedicated person to hold me by the scruff like a kitten whenever I see someone posting about me so I have time to think before I instantly start trying to reply
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(Anonymous) 2022-09-10 10:19 pm (UTC)(link)Fair enough, though I dunno how anyone could stand browsing smr without being able to block the regulars lol
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