Thank you for not recommending getting another pet.
I see so many people go 'your pet would want you to rescue another! Go get one immediately' without thinking that maybe the person should wait to get another pet.
I lost my first cat when he was 18 in about 2014. At the time I didn't want another pet because I was afraid I would start treating them like my first one, instead of letting them be their own cat.
A couple of years later, we had a calico show up who got pregnant and brought her babies to the front porch (we had had other cats, it is just they weren't *my* cats, they all preferred someone else) and I ended up with three black and white kittens (two of which who looked like my first cat).
The one that didn't look like my first cat started preferring someone else, and we sadly lost him to I think an illness we didn't catch in time (lot going on at the time). I sadly lost one of the two I still had in July of last year at only 8. He was my little heart kitten. I was his emotional support human. It still hurts.
I still have his brother (currently in my arms as I type this purring away), but he isnt' the same. Neither of them were the same as my first kitty. I have two other cats as well, one of whom is a velcro kitty, and neither of them are the same as my first kitty.
I know that it helps some people with their grief to go out and rescue new pets, but not everyone is like that, and I wish more people understood that. Sometimes getting a new pet right after you lose the old one is the wrong thing to do.
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Thank you for not recommending getting another pet.
I see so many people go 'your pet would want you to rescue another! Go get one immediately' without thinking that maybe the person should wait to get another pet.
I lost my first cat when he was 18 in about 2014. At the time I didn't want another pet because I was afraid I would start treating them like my first one, instead of letting them be their own cat.
A couple of years later, we had a calico show up who got pregnant and brought her babies to the front porch (we had had other cats, it is just they weren't *my* cats, they all preferred someone else) and I ended up with three black and white kittens (two of which who looked like my first cat).
The one that didn't look like my first cat started preferring someone else, and we sadly lost him to I think an illness we didn't catch in time (lot going on at the time). I sadly lost one of the two I still had in July of last year at only 8. He was my little heart kitten. I was his emotional support human. It still hurts.
I still have his brother (currently in my arms as I type this purring away), but he isnt' the same. Neither of them were the same as my first kitty. I have two other cats as well, one of whom is a velcro kitty, and neither of them are the same as my first kitty.
I know that it helps some people with their grief to go out and rescue new pets, but not everyone is like that, and I wish more people understood that. Sometimes getting a new pet right after you lose the old one is the wrong thing to do.