i do also think its worth offering some degree of grace to forcedcoma in particular - from someone who interacted with them and didnt know about their prior association with vongacy's group, their prior actions were in part due to self-loathing/denial and cultural influence from being queer in russia. this isn't an excuse and i agree with your skepticism, but if someone has worked through their shit and seems to have done the self-reflection and understand that other people are not obligated to forgive them, that's kinda the best we can hope for as an outcome