i said "ready and capable or get the aid you need to get a diagnosis" and stated - also very clearly - *eventually* it is what should be done. if you are not capable, or can't get the aid you need right now, i'm not going to fault someone for not getting an official diagnosis until later in life. i'm not going to fault people for being poor, or unemployed, or currently in a household that's not safe/supportive, or any other outstanding reasons that may make their life difficult if diagnosed formally. these are only a fragment of extenuating circumstances that affect a lot of people. just because i'm not outright saying every little circumstance, however, doesn't mean that i'm not aware of the countless reasons someone might can't, such as being a minor or under guardianship of someone/a government who/that refuses to do so/can't do so, or in a domestically abusive home, or an immigrant, or homeless or what have you. i'm not listing all of them because i'm not about to write the war and peace of things that make life hard for people here.
you are also correct in that an official dx can do harm. this is also an extenuating circumstance that i can understand.
and your difference is that you are AT LEAST seeing a specialist. you are seeing someone who has gotten an education in the psychological field (at least, that's what i'm interpreting you as having; i can be wrong) and even specializes in your condition. you are seeing a professional, and i'm *glad* you are and can do so, and will always be glad when someone does, because people should do as much as they can. but TONS MORE people - disproportionately so - aren't, whether of their own volition or by the extenuating circumstances that are not limited to what you and i covered, and are going on to say they have some arrangement of conditions as if complete fact when it simply isn't.
what i will recommend in order to be of help to you in some way (as i'm critically disabled now and unable to make money; i WISH i could help you in the way you're asking, but i absolutely never can or i'll lose all my health benefits that keep me alive) is i'll suggest that you look into non-profit hospitals and medical care systems if you haven't already. there's lots out there; possibly not in your neck of the woods, but if there is, look into them. in order for a hospital to be non-profit in MOST circumstances, patients MUST be able to apply for financial aid that can cover your treatment, based on income and needs, so long as you apply and provide proof that fits their criteria. i had to do this when i had heart surgery while uninsured. i got completely free healthcare for a year from my medical system for everything i needed from my physical to extremely specialist needs, to even my extremely expensive medication. they even helped me apply for government insurance and advocated for me until i got it. they got me a social worker. every hospital is different, but there ARE systems that can do what you need, and some even provide transportation aid for appointments.
i'm so sorry you can't get a formal diagnosis for financial reasons. i could never be able to express it in words correctly, and i wish you can find a job that gets you where you need to be in order to get the resources our world fails to give readily.
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you are also correct in that an official dx can do harm. this is also an extenuating circumstance that i can understand.
and your difference is that you are AT LEAST seeing a specialist. you are seeing someone who has gotten an education in the psychological field (at least, that's what i'm interpreting you as having; i can be wrong) and even specializes in your condition. you are seeing a professional, and i'm *glad* you are and can do so, and will always be glad when someone does, because people should do as much as they can. but TONS MORE people - disproportionately so - aren't, whether of their own volition or by the extenuating circumstances that are not limited to what you and i covered, and are going on to say they have some arrangement of conditions as if complete fact when it simply isn't.
what i will recommend in order to be of help to you in some way (as i'm critically disabled now and unable to make money; i WISH i could help you in the way you're asking, but i absolutely never can or i'll lose all my health benefits that keep me alive) is i'll suggest that you look into non-profit hospitals and medical care systems if you haven't already. there's lots out there; possibly not in your neck of the woods, but if there is, look into them. in order for a hospital to be non-profit in MOST circumstances, patients MUST be able to apply for financial aid that can cover your treatment, based on income and needs, so long as you apply and provide proof that fits their criteria. i had to do this when i had heart surgery while uninsured. i got completely free healthcare for a year from my medical system for everything i needed from my physical to extremely specialist needs, to even my extremely expensive medication. they even helped me apply for government insurance and advocated for me until i got it. they got me a social worker. every hospital is different, but there ARE systems that can do what you need, and some even provide transportation aid for appointments.
i'm so sorry you can't get a formal diagnosis for financial reasons. i could never be able to express it in words correctly, and i wish you can find a job that gets you where you need to be in order to get the resources our world fails to give readily.