"and that I might be blunt in my communications"

I admit this kind of thing is actually exactly what gets my own hackles up a bit: the notion that neurodivergence is a justification for rudeness. (and I say this as someone who is neurodivergent, including being on the spectrum.)
your posts here don't strike me as notably blunt/rude, so most likely this is simply anxiety on your part rather than you wanting an excuse to be a dick!

it's just that I've had a few too many bad experiences.