My experience with the q-slur crowd is, even if they are not terfs, they've decided that this is the Worst Word Ever and completely unreclaimable. They aren't saying don't use it on them, they're saying don't use it at all. I've rarely run into a person who uses q-slur that doesn't think like that, and think that people using it are either ignorant and in need of education. Or terrible people (and then the accusations of other, truly bad, things starts). This is my lived experience, so it does not apply universally, of course. Maybe I just hang out in the wrong corners of the internet.
Thank you for trying to understand my position here, and for being so civil. If it helps, I do understand your position on it, and would love it to be the true and correct one. It would make the world that much lovelier. I wish you all the best, but I think, like you, I will be ending my part in the discussion here
Re: not trying to stir anything
My experience with the q-slur crowd is, even if they are not terfs, they've decided that this is the Worst Word Ever and completely unreclaimable. They aren't saying don't use it on them, they're saying don't use it at all. I've rarely run into a person who uses q-slur that doesn't think like that, and think that people using it are either ignorant and in need of education. Or terrible people (and then the accusations of other, truly bad, things starts). This is my lived experience, so it does not apply universally, of course. Maybe I just hang out in the wrong corners of the internet.
Thank you for trying to understand my position here, and for being so civil. If it helps, I do understand your position on it, and would love it to be the true and correct one. It would make the world that much lovelier. I wish you all the best, but I think, like you, I will be ending my part in the discussion here