So much this. Especially the first link. I'm not "q-slur," I'm /queer/. Stop taking the rock I've already stolen from those who threw it at me so that you can throw it at me from a different direction. I'm here, I'm queer, you need to get over it. (You as in the generalized you, no one specific, since someone's always gonna bad faith read things).
Re: not trying to stir anything