I wish you luck, and as someone who's seen many of these things happen over the years from various sites and whatnot, I have advice for you and your flight:

Stop. Leave this alone, go do something about your very real problems. The energy you and yours use to fight and argue is wasted here. The damage is done. There's a number of your folks that will be held accountable for things they shouldn't have said, even in "private". Just move on, let the peanut gallery chatter.

Fix your shit and stop fanning the flames on an anonymous drama comm.